Things Your Planner Isn’t Supposed to Say
i. You don’t need 200 people at your wedding
Forget polite invites, acquaintances of your parents, or inviting your whole office. You lose the feeling of intimacy and warmth at your wedding when you’re surrounded by a sea of strange faces. Aesthetically it starts to feel a little messy, and the sweet spot at most venues is well below what's advertised, when keeping event flow and guest comfort in mind! Keep it to friends and family you know and love. Your wedding budget will thank you too!
ii. Set Aside More Tips for Your Vendors
Yes, tipping has gotten out of hand, I said it. It used to be as simple as a gift or a small cash thank you. Now it’s akin to taking your entire guest count out to an upscale dinner where you were definitely, um, pleased. However, what you have to remember is that everyone on your wedding day will be hustling for you, hard. I routinely ask all of the vendors onsite to go above and beyond their job descriptions when the moment presents itself, and guess what? They are always willing to do it. We work as a team to ensure that your day is perfect - no. matter. what. Plus, your tip goes 100% to your vendors, no matter the size of the company or corporation.
iii. Thank Your Planner
I know it’s easy to get wrapped up in the highs of post wedding bliss the next day. Or maybe you’re jetting off on your honeymoon. But one of the first things you should do when you wake up the next day? Text your planner! It can be as simple as “thank you so much!” but it means the world to us and trust me, we’re waiting for it. Whether we planned with you for 3 months or a year, we are DYING to know how you feel. So don’t put us through the agony of waiting 2 weeks to tell us how much fun you had on the dance floor!
v. Stand Your Ground
I’m seeing this a lot more recently - pushy, old school vendors that get in the habit of doing things one way and aren't open to new ideas. Or maybe it's that they like to highlight their work, without considering the impact on your wedding as a whole. Please remember that this is YOUR day. We are all here to bring your vision to life - yes with industry knowledge and some direction on how to make it all work, but most importantly with your wants and needs in mind. I always stand up for my clients (no matter how uncomfortable!), but please remember to stand up for yourself as well!
